Woman Cancels Her Wedding After Future MIL Insists on Inviting Groom’s Ex-girlfriend and Calls the Bride ‘The Rebound Girl’

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Bar Mor Hazut • Senior Editor
Sep 4, 2024 10:00 PM EDT

Every person is entitled to choose their friends and the people who are closest to them. No one should tell you who you can be friends with, and whether or not you are allowed to talk to certain people.

That being said, common sense points out that there should be some red lines one should not cross. For example, being friends with your sibling's ex should not cross your mind, or keeping in contact with your ex's parents. Some relationships are simply off-limits, and no one should have to be the one saying it.

The mom in this Reddit story, for instance, is best friends with her son's ex-girlfriend, and not only that, she also thought its was a good idea to invite the ex to her son's wedding. The bride wasn't a fan of her future mother-in-law inviting the ex to her wedding, and after several fights with both the mother and the groom, decided to simply call of the wedding.

Scroll down to read the full story. After you are done, click here for a story of a family who refused to fund their son's honeymoon after he eloped.

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    AITAH for not inviting my fiancé's ex to our wedding?
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    Throwaway account. I (F, 26) have been with Henry (M, 36 almost 37) for 5 years. We are engaged and currently planning our wedding. A little background: Henry is the youngest child, and his
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    mother really wanted a girl. Because of this, Henry grew up feeling despised by his mom, who openly says hurtful things like how he was a disappointment from the start or
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    how she never got the daughter she wanted. Despite this, instead of going no-contact with her, Henry has been trying very hard to win her love.
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    Henry had a long-term ex ( F, 32) who is very close with his mother. She became the daughter his mother always wanted. However, this ex cheated on him with a coworker and left him. After two
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    years, Henry and I met. Eventually, the ex wanted to get back together with him, but he said no and blocked her. Despite this, she and his mother remain best friends. His mother still invites her to family functions, and my fiancé and I just ignore her.
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    His mother doesn't like me and believes I'm the reason she can't have her preferred daughter-in-law. My fiancé has explained many times that he would rather stay single forever than get back with his ex.
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    So, even if I didn't exist, he wouldn't be with her. Yesterday, my MIL asked how many guests she could invite to our wedding. I told her that since my parents could invite 8-10 people,
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    she could do the same. She thanked me, but an hour later, she smiled and said, "Well, we have one 'yes' already," referring to my fiancé's ex. I told her that was very inappropriate since we aren't even
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    friends with her. She responded by saying that it's her guest list and none of my business. Then she said I'm insecure because the ex is "the whole package" and that I'm just a rebound girl.
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    Henry told his mom to stop and asked her to leave. Once she left, he asked if I could be the bigger person and let her have this, as he really wants his mom to be at the wedding. He suggested that if
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    inviting his ex would keep his mom quiet, we should just ignore her. Am I the for not wanting her there? P.S.: We are mostly paying for the wedding ourselves, with some help from my dad. MIL hasn't contributed.
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    Update - AITAH for not inviting my fiancé's ex to our wedding
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    Thank you so much for the comments and DMs. I had a calm talk with Henry and explained how I feel disrespected by his mom's words and actions. While I can't control who she associates with,
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    it is very disrespectful that she invites your ex to all the gatherings, and that the two of them constantly pick on me. Henry acknowledged this, but said that's just how his mom is. I told him that it's best we cancel the wedding at
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    this point because I want our wedding day to be a happy, memorable occasion, not one filled with drama and stress. I added that his mom is going to ruin this day, and that he's just going to accept it as usual, which I can't tolerate. I told him I won't marry.
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    him until he sets some boundaries with his mother. This situation is ridiculous. Henry went on about how he can't cut his mom out of his life because she sacrificed so much raising him and his brother as a single mom. But he
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    admitted he doesn't know how to handle her either. I told him I can't make that decision for him, but I'm going no contact with his mom. I suggested that maybe therapy could help him realize how abusive and toxic
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    his relationship with his family is and help him decide what to do with his life. I also said I won't attend any more gatherings. He went quiet for a while. Then, he called his mom (on speakerphone) to tell her that the wedding was canceled. She went on
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    and on, saying he finally did the right thing by "dumping that whiny calling me insecure and controlling, and saying it was a miserable relationship. Henry kept interrupting her, saying, "Mom! Stop." But she didn't care. In the end, he told her,
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    "Mom, we are not breaking up! She's here and heard everything. She canceled it, not me, because you kept disrespecting her." His mom screamed, "That manipulative little set me up!" and started ranting again. Henry then told her that he needs some time
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    to think, and it's best if she gives him some space, then hung up. We've barely talked since. He's spending today helping his brother with some renovations, and I'm home alone. Hopefully, my next update will be less depressing.
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    Charming-Maria • 17h ago Wow, sounds like things got intense between you and Henry's mom. I'm glad you stood up for yourself and that Henry supported your decision to cancel the wedding. Remember, prioritizing your own happiness and wellbeing should
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    always be a top priority in any relationship, even if it means taking a hard stance. It's clear that Henry still loves his mom deeply, but it's important for him to learn to set healthy boundaries and work through his feelings without resorting to verbal abuse towards you. Keep us updated on how things unfold, take care, and stay strong!
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